Curiosity is the highest form of Love
Curiosity is a skill and can be used to connect to another person’s reality, and to get to know them better, but it is an essential skill needed to connect in a loving relationship. When curiosity-based questions are used without agenda or judgment, with an accept-ing sincere tone they can help you to get to know what’s really going on in your partner’s world – heart, mind, thoughts, feelings, or life
Sincere, genuine and warm curiosity-based questions allow you to discover what’s really going on in your partner’s reality, and do not generate emotions or defensive re-sponses if curiosity-based questions questions are asked kindly and respectfully. Genuine curiosity can allow your partner to feel emotionally safe enough to express any deeper feelings they may have, and share their unique experience more fully.
Most people don’t realise that being curious about someone in your life that you’ve known forever, is your way of showing genuine interest and care. It shows you wonder about their inner world, their mind, who they are, who they will be, how they perceive the world. It’s a beautiful feeling and I hope you receive it in abundance.
Being curious and not judgmental is a way of life for me. It makes me a better listener, a better parent, a better coach, a better interviewer. When we are curious about the people we are in community with, it brings us closer together. When we are curious, it leads us to become more understanding of people with whom we may have a different opinion. When we are curious, we grow.
To be known is to be in a relationship that does not always need words. To be known means to belong. When we look at our faith through a posture of curiosity we begin to see God in a way that is attainable, that is practical and pure. It is not a relationship that is one sided. It invites us to search God for ourselves. It is evidence of love.
This is why I’ve learned to say to friends and prospective partners early on, “My love language is curiosity. I feel most loved when others ask questions and want to understand me.” By offering this simple truth, we give others the information they need to love us well. Whether they choose to act on that information is up to them.
If we find ourselves in relationships that are one-sided, we need to be willing to let them go, and embrace the initial loneliness that comes from leaving the old while awaiting the new. We need to learn to trust that we are interesting, that our experiences are valuable, and that our words are just as worthy of space as anyone else’s.
With every new relationship that makes space for the essence of us, the more believable these truths become.
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Joe Turan
- Life Coach
- Tantra & Kuscheltherapeut
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